Isabella Prieto Escobar 11
Love. Such a complex word to explain and such an unexplainable feeling. Some people may say that love is the best thing that could have ever happened to them, others may declare that it is the most horrible situation they have experienced. So, what truly is love? Well, I will not be the person to explain this to you, because I cannot explain what I have not experienced yet. However, I do want to share a remarkable comment from my dad about love that changed my perspective about it forever.
Every time that I have liked someone, it has not been reciprocated. I know this is not an uncommon situation; it has happened to almost everyone on Earth. Nevertheless, I can’t deny that it feels horrendous to be conscious of the fact that who you like and who you have created several scenarios with in your head, does not feel the same as you. People act differently towards those circumstances, some may just let it pass by, others cry for a week about it, while some give up on love after one rejection. Even with all these different reactions, I believe there’s one common feeling, and it’s that of disappointment. Disappointment because you think you could have done better to make the person like you back, disappointment because you did not get what you wanted, disappointment because you thought things were going to turn out in a better way; well, disappointment.
Once, I told my dad that a guy I liked didn’t like me back and I expressed my sadness and desperation because things always turned out like that for me. I remember asking him in despair “Why am I so unlucky, is it that difficult for a boy to love me, even a little bit?” My dad, calmly, pronounced the most beautiful words I have heard about love until today, probably. He said the following “Hey, hey, calm down. I know it does not feel precisely good to know that whoever you like does not feel the same for you but hear me out. There are 8 billion people in the world, do you believe finding love will be that easy? Of course not! That’s the magic of love, that’s the beautiful part of it! You will like several people, and most times they will not like you back, and then when you think that the same will happen…boom! It will be reciprocated! And then you will understand why it did not work out with all the others”. These words may not be impactful for everyone but for me they were, and in a very special way.
Then I understood. I understood that it is normal for it to not work out with every person you like, that it is okay to feel things for people who do not care much about you, that it’s not a matter of luck. Love is a matter of destiny, if it’s meant to happen, it will happen. I understood that all these “disappointing” situations are also meant to happen so in the moment that it’s mutual, you can actually appreciate the feeling of having that unique connection with someone. Love would not be special if it was so available, and that’s its magic.
In conclusion, it’s understandable to feel bad when you are rejected, because I understand that feeling, I know how humiliating it feels to offer your love to someone and not receive it back. Nonetheless, I want you to think back about this whenever it happens to you again. Just have it in mind, have in mind that the uniqueness of love comes from its low probabilities. Whenever your person loves you back, you will understand why everything happened how it did, why you were rejected so many times before, why you had to feel sad about it, because all of these situations prepare you to love someone unconditionally one day. And that, I believe, is the magic of love and destiny.